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My son has been lying a lot since his father passed in 2009. He lies about anything and everything, how can I fix this?

My husband the father of my children passed in 2009. I noticed some time after that my son was lying a lot. My son is now 18 and the lying hasn’t stopped. He lies about everything. The other day when I got home one of the kids had done the dishes. I asked my son who did the dishes? He said his sister did. When I said something to her about the dishes turns out he lied. He had done the dishes. I don’t understand why anyone would lie like this. I taught my children the importance of being honest and trustworthy and l have done my best to lead by example which makes this extreamly frustrating. Please help me help him fix this.

My son has been lying a lot since his father passed in 2009. He lies about anything and everything, how can I fix this? Read More »

My daughter has almost completely withdrawn this past year. She wont help around the house or take part in activities that she use to enjoy. How can we help without nagging her?

My 13 year old daughter has undergone a worrying change over the past year. She used to be very helpful around the house without being told, she loved piano and would push herself to do well (even compete), and she enjoyed soccer. Although recently, she wants to quit piano, and won’t practice unless we tell her to. She refuses to play sports. She stays in her room a lot and won’t help around the house. She’s always been quiet and reserved, but now she’s even harder to get her to share her thoughts or any conversation at all. She only wants to watch TV, and rarely gets together with friends. She has always done things on her own terms; she has to be self-motivated to do anything. If we encouraged her to try something, she would resist unless it aligned with her desires. Now we try and try to get her involved in anything, even the things she used to be passionate about, but she digs in and refuses to do anything. How do we draw her out? What can we do that won’t seem naggy or pushy?

My daughter has almost completely withdrawn this past year. She wont help around the house or take part in activities that she use to enjoy. How can we help without nagging her? Read More »